The Hidden Trap of New Year’s Resolutions


“You might have to fight a battle more than once to win it.” – Margaret Thatcher


The Christmas and New Year’s binge-eating have taken its toll on our clothes. Every single piece we own seems to have shrunken significantly.

Or maybe was our wallet what suffered the excitement of the holidays. We might start to suspect we didn’t need that 60 inch TV after all.

But luckily for us, the beginning of a new year is exactly what we need to turn our lives around.

Our New Year’s resolutions are the opportunity we have been waiting for the whole year, right?

Non-Judgment and The Art of Letting Go

We seem to be naturally programmed to judge. Like we have discussed before, much of our judging is based in our need to find a coherent structure in the world around us.

When we don’t have factual information at hand, we make a guess. Most of the time this is enough to calm our hunger for order.

It doesn’t really matters if our guess is accurate or not, as long as it makes sense to us.

I don’t think there’s nothing wrong with this and it seems to be pretty much unavoidable.

But judging becomes a problem when we get used to do so not to calm our subconscious need for structure, but because we have adopted judging as a conscious habit.

Unfortunately, this happens more often than we want to admit.

What Defines You?

Have you wondered what defines you?

Are you defined by the place you were born or by the color of your skin?

Are you defined by a particular physical trait – the color of your eyes or hair; or your weight or height, perhaps?

Are you defined by your physical possessions – the neighborhood you live in or the car you drive; or how many zeros your bank account has?

Maybe what defines you is a character trait – courage, cowardice, ambition or mediocrity.

At first, when we ask ourselves what defines us, usually the first thing that comes to mind is how we think OTHER people might define us; which is completely irrelevant.

However, it’s highly useful to ask ourselves this question in order find a personal and individual answer, and ultimately, to make a choice.


Fear of Missing Out and The Fantasy of Everything

The world provides us with infinite possibilities. More than ever, today we are capable of doing and seeing things that would have terrified our grandparents.

I don’t know if a few hundred years ago the world was a better place than today or not, but it certainly was simpler.

Whether you were an aristocrat or a farmer, the choices available to you in almost every matter were less than what you have today, if any. With some exceptions, a farmer remained a farmer from his first to his last day.

But the world is different today, and I am not referring exclusively about the possibilities of generating wealth and income. Today we have far more option about a greater deal of matters.

Today a farmer doesn’t have to remain a farmer as long as he/she makes the required choices to change his/her way of life.

But that’s precisely the problem. The freedom to choose can become paralyzing.

Footprint of an Intention: Law of Attraction Basics

The law of attraction simply states that what we focus upon is attracted onto our reality. If we focus on the positive aspects of our reality, we will attract more of it. On the other hand, when we focus on the negative aspects of our reality, our life will become full of new and bigger negative characteristics, events and experiences.

This is a rather simplistic definition, which in my opinion is the source of a great deal of confusion.

In order to really understand what the law of attraction is, first we must understand of what is composed.