The Hidden Trap of New Year’s Resolutions

 

“You might have to fight a battle more than once to win it.” – Margaret Thatcher

 

The Christmas and New Year’s binge-eating have taken its toll on our clothes. Every single piece we own seems to have shrunken significantly.

Or maybe was our wallet what suffered the excitement of the holidays. We might start to suspect we didn’t need that 60 inch TV after all.

But luckily for us, the beginning of a new year is exactly what we need to turn our lives around.

Our New Year’s resolutions are the opportunity we have been waiting for the whole year, right?

Non-Judgment and The Art of Letting Go

We seem to be naturally programmed to judge. Like we have discussed before, much of our judging is based in our need to find a coherent structure in the world around us.

When we don’t have factual information at hand, we make a guess. Most of the time this is enough to calm our hunger for order.

It doesn’t really matters if our guess is accurate or not, as long as it makes sense to us.

I don’t think there’s nothing wrong with this and it seems to be pretty much unavoidable.

But judging becomes a problem when we get used to do so not to calm our subconscious need for structure, but because we have adopted judging as a conscious habit.

Unfortunately, this happens more often than we want to admit.

Fear of Missing Out and The Fantasy of Everything

The world provides us with infinite possibilities. More than ever, today we are capable of doing and seeing things that would have terrified our grandparents.

I don’t know if a few hundred years ago the world was a better place than today or not, but it certainly was simpler.

Whether you were an aristocrat or a farmer, the choices available to you in almost every matter were less than what you have today, if any. With some exceptions, a farmer remained a farmer from his first to his last day.

But the world is different today, and I am not referring exclusively about the possibilities of generating wealth and income. Today we have far more option about a greater deal of matters.

Today a farmer doesn’t have to remain a farmer as long as he/she makes the required choices to change his/her way of life.

But that’s precisely the problem. The freedom to choose can become paralyzing.

Footprint of an Intention: Law of Attraction Basics

The law of attraction simply states that what we focus upon is attracted onto our reality. If we focus on the positive aspects of our reality, we will attract more of it. On the other hand, when we focus on the negative aspects of our reality, our life will become full of new and bigger negative characteristics, events and experiences.

This is a rather simplistic definition, which in my opinion is the source of a great deal of confusion.

In order to really understand what the law of attraction is, first we must understand of what is composed.

The Urge To Give Up – What It Means and How to Handle It

When was the last time you felt like giving up?

Every time I am pursuing a goal and I feel like giving up, I get angry with myself.

Why do I feel this way? – I wonder – Where does this random urge to walk away comes from?

Is not a conscious thought or desire, because I usually understand the motivation behind the pursuing of my goals.

Then, why I want to give up?

Anatomy of a Happy Life

Happiness is pretty much subjective: What makes me happy, might not work for you. In the same way, what makes you happy might make me feel miserable. The conditions I have to meet in order to consider that I’m living a happy life are not any better than yours. We simply want different ingredients in our pie.

However, happiness seems to be a sneaky fellow. Everyone wants to be happy, whether they realize it or not. I actually believe the pursuit of happiness is a natural impulse and independent of our will, just like breathing. But if everyone wants to be happy, and we pursue such goal whether we want it or not, how’s possible that unhappiness seems to be far more common that its opposite?

The problem lies in the definition of what a happy life means to us, and not so much in our physical circumstances. As we have said before, happiness is a choice, but after you choose to be happy, you must define what “happy” means to you. Not doing so is like going out on a quest without an objective. You will just wander around forever, not knowing if you will ever find what you are looking for, and not even knowing what you are looking for.