The Urge To Give Up – What It Means and How to Handle It

When was the last time you felt like giving up?

Every time I am pursuing a goal and I feel like giving up, I get angry with myself.

Why do I feel this way? – I wonder – Where does this random urge to walk away comes from?

Is not a conscious thought or desire, because I usually understand the motivation behind the pursuing of my goals.

Then, why I want to give up?

How to Deal with Self-Doubt: 5 Proven Methods

 

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” – Suzy Kassem

Self-doubt is the lack of confidence in one’s own motives or abilities. Learning how to deal with self-doubt in an efficient manner is not only healthy, but it is required if we want to achieve something meaningful in life.

We all have self-doubts, even those who claim or seem like they don’t. So, the first thing before we tackle self-doubt is to understand that this is a common issue and we all can fall prey of doubting our own abilities or adequacy.

The goal we must aim is not getting rid of self-doubt completely, but learning to deal with it in a healthy way. Otherwise, self-doubt can become a great obstacle between our ambitions and ourselves, preventing us from achieving our goals.

True Contribution is About Helping Others

Personal development and growth is closely related to the constant evolution of the self. We aim to develop those qualities we consider important in a good human being. However, personal development is also about helping other people.

When we improve our character, our emotional intelligence or our intellectual capacity or when we figure out our purpose and how to express it through our passions, we become our own contribution to the world. By the simple act of not contributing in a negative manner and set an example to others around us, we become a positive factor.

There’s nothing wrong if this is as far as you want to go regarding the contribution you make to the world. But if we really want to contribute to improving not only ourselves, but the lives of those around us, our community and ultimately our world, can we say this is enough? I don’t think so.

Attention is a Currency

We must be selective in our attention by focusing on some events to the detriment of others. This is because attention is like a resource that needs to be distributed to those events that are important.” – Russell Revlin on selective attention [Cognition: Theory and Practice]

 

Every single moment of our waking time, we’re subjected to a constant flow of information: the voices of people around us talking, the cars on the street, a dog barking in the distance. You get the picture.

Even in “quiet” environments, such as hospitals or some offices, our attention is drawn to external factors all the time: the copy machine, someone walking down the hall, a phone ringing.

Usually, we don’t pay attention to every single thing that happens around us. We would go crazy if we had to do so. Instead, we focus on certain elements of our environment that we consider to be of utmost importance, while ignoring other distractions.

Start Building Your Dream Life Now

Some people say that we will have time to chase our dreams later. When the responsibilities are few and we get what we are currently lacking (money, time, courage, freedom, etc.)

Sometimes, who whisper these words are not others around us, but ourselves. We put a great deal of effort to trick ourselves into believing that “later” is always a good option or even the only option we have.

These are lies.

21 Effects of Stress on the Body

Stress is the reaction of the body to a certain circumstance that requires a response or an adjustment from our part. Often the effects of stress on the body have physical, mental and emotional consequences.

In the last 20 years, stress has been a popular subject of study, mostly because we have come closer to understanding the negative effects it can produce. The problem is that stress is part of our normal life. Many events that happen in our life and in our surroundings provoke stress; and therefore, a physical and emotional response. This is the reason why so many people fail when they intent to avoid stress. There’s simply no way to avoid it without isolating yourself from the world. So, a better alternative is not trying to avoid stress, but learning to deal with it in the most positive and efficient way.

But before we learn how to deal with stress, we must understand the effects of stress in our bodies and what it does to our minds.