We care about so many things.
Some of those things are truly significant, like the well-being of our loved ones, the things that make us feel secure and stable and we care about the special moments that light up our days.
But we also care about other things, not so significant.
We care about the tone of the cashier (she was so rude); we also care about the fact that Jimmy, from accounting, didn’t bother to ask how we feel today (didn’t he knew I was sick yesterday?); and we care about that time Joan of Arcadia was cancelled (Well, I did).
Caring is a Limited Resource
Often we forget that to care is a depletion activity. The more we care, the less energy we have to face the truly important trials we might encounter throughout our day. And the more we care about non-critical situations, the less energy we have to focus on the truly important matters.
I’m not saying that we should be completely oblivious to a rude co-worker or to the cancellation of our favorite TV show; I’m just saying that we must be conscious and careful about the selection of things we chose to care about.
Because to care it’s a choice, and a rather important one, I might add.
The Perfect Storm
When we fail to do so, we end up getting angry about insignificant matters every day, worrying about things without seeing that the worse case scenario is not nearly as bad as we imagine it to be or paying attention about what others say or think about us. No wonder why we feel exhausted by the end of the day.
Even worse than nurturing the perfect storm of anxiety inside our heads, is not being able to focus over the things that really matter.
Of course we fail to care about the things that can truly make our lives special, like building an emotional bond with our children or getting to know and understand our life’s purpose, if we spend all our “care reserve” over every single thing we encounter throughout our day.
Care Less to Care More
I’m not arguing to be careless, all the contrary. We should care, and a lot, but we should care about the right things, about the important matters (the truly important matters, not the inbox nor the to-do list).
But, you see, we must care less about the things that bother us in order to be able to care more about the things that make us feel truly alive.
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